Tyler Perryis reflecting on what happened in the moments immediately followingWill Smith’s Oscars incident.During the March awards show, 53-year-old Will walked onstage and struck comedianChris Rockfor making a joke about his wifeJada Pinkett Smith’s shaved head. Jada lives with alopecia, and Will — who won Best Actor that night — explained in a statement days later that the punch line was “too much for me to bear” and he “reacted emotionally.““I would like to publicly apologize to you, Chris. I was out of line and I was wrong. I am embarrassed and my actions were not indicative of the man I want to be. There is no place for violence in a world of love and kindness,” Will added, later resigning from the Academy, which thenbanned him from attending their ceremoniesfor the next 10 years.During a wide-ranging conversation withGayle Kingas part of the Tribeca Film Festival’s Directors Series in New York City Monday, Perry, 52, addressed the shocking moment and the immediate aftermath.Perry (who was atthe Oscarsto honorSidney Poitierduring the In Memoriam segment) wasphotographed speaking to Willalong withDenzel Washingtondirectly after the smack, but as he clarified to King, he wasn’t “comforting” him, he was “deescalating” the situation.For more on Tyler Perry, listen below to our daily podcast PEOPLE Every Day.“There’s a difference between comforting and deescalating, that’s No. 1. And I left early to get to Chris to make sure he was okay. Being friends with both of them has been very difficult,” said Perry.ROBYN BECK/AFP/GettyNever miss a story — sign up forPEOPLE’s free daily newsletterto stay up-to-date on the best of what PEOPLE has to offer, from juicy celebrity news to compelling human interest stories.“Trust me, as painful as it was for all of us in the room, it was as painful for Chris, who was a pure champion for the way he handled it,” he added. “But I want you to understand that something happened that was extremely painful for [Will] as well. That is no excuse. He was completely wrong for what he did. But something triggered him — that is so out of everything he is.“Perry also added that the outburst was “wrong in no uncertain terms, and I made sure I said that to Will.““And I’ll tell you, when we walked over to him, he was devastated. He couldn’t believe what happened. He couldn’t believe he did it,” the filmmaker/actor recalled of Will’s demeanor. “I’m looking at this man in his eyes going, ‘What are you doing? This is your night.’ And to get all the way to this moment, winning an Oscar, that was one of the crowning moments of his career that he wanted so desperately, and to have something like that happen….“Gregg DeGuire/WireImage; Dimitrios Kambouris/WireImage; Carlos Alvarez/Getty"I think he is very much in reflection of trying to figure out what happened,” continued Perry. “Because what I’ll tell you is I just read his book, and there’s this moment about not being able to protect his mother [as a child]. I know that feeling — I’m getting chills just thinking about it. I know that feeling of being a man and thinking about the little boy. And if that trauma is not dealt with right away, as you get older it will show up in the most inappropriate, most horrible time. I know Will. I know him well.“In the weeks sincethe Oscars, Rock, 57, has madebrief jokes at standup performancesreferencing the moment, but he hasn’t yet spoken about it in length. He has said he’ll “talk about it at some point” eventually.Jada, 50,addressed the incident on a recent episodeof herRed Table Talkshow, saying, “About Oscar night: My deepest hope is that these two intelligent, capable men have an opportunity to heal, talk this out and reconcile. With the state of the world today, we need ‘em both, and we all actually need one another more than ever. Until then, Will and I are continuing to do what we have done for the last 28 years — and that’s [to] keep figuring out this thing called life together. Thank you for listening.”

Tyler Perryis reflecting on what happened in the moments immediately followingWill Smith’s Oscars incident.

During the March awards show, 53-year-old Will walked onstage and struck comedianChris Rockfor making a joke about his wifeJada Pinkett Smith’s shaved head. Jada lives with alopecia, and Will — who won Best Actor that night — explained in a statement days later that the punch line was “too much for me to bear” and he “reacted emotionally.”

“I would like to publicly apologize to you, Chris. I was out of line and I was wrong. I am embarrassed and my actions were not indicative of the man I want to be. There is no place for violence in a world of love and kindness,” Will added, later resigning from the Academy, which thenbanned him from attending their ceremoniesfor the next 10 years.

During a wide-ranging conversation withGayle Kingas part of the Tribeca Film Festival’s Directors Series in New York City Monday, Perry, 52, addressed the shocking moment and the immediate aftermath.

Perry (who was atthe Oscarsto honorSidney Poitierduring the In Memoriam segment) wasphotographed speaking to Willalong withDenzel Washingtondirectly after the smack, but as he clarified to King, he wasn’t “comforting” him, he was “deescalating” the situation.

For more on Tyler Perry, listen below to our daily podcast PEOPLE Every Day.

“There’s a difference between comforting and deescalating, that’s No. 1. And I left early to get to Chris to make sure he was okay. Being friends with both of them has been very difficult,” said Perry.

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US actor Denzel Washington (L), US actor Will Smith (C) and US actor-producer Tyler Perry chat during the 94th Oscars at the Dolby Theatre in Hollywood, California on March 27, 2022. (Photo by Robyn Beck / AFP) (Photo by ROBYN BECK/AFP via Getty Images)

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“Trust me, as painful as it was for all of us in the room, it was as painful for Chris, who was a pure champion for the way he handled it,” he added. “But I want you to understand that something happened that was extremely painful for [Will] as well. That is no excuse. He was completely wrong for what he did. But something triggered him — that is so out of everything he is.”

Perry also added that the outburst was “wrong in no uncertain terms, and I made sure I said that to Will.”

“And I’ll tell you, when we walked over to him, he was devastated. He couldn’t believe what happened. He couldn’t believe he did it,” the filmmaker/actor recalled of Will’s demeanor. “I’m looking at this man in his eyes going, ‘What are you doing? This is your night.’ And to get all the way to this moment, winning an Oscar, that was one of the crowning moments of his career that he wanted so desperately, and to have something like that happen….”

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Chris Rock attends the FX Networks’ Star Walk Winter Press Tour 2020 at The Langham Huntington, Pasadena on January 09, 2020 in Pasadena, California. (Photo by Gregg DeGuire/WireImage); Tyler Perry attends the premiere of Tyler Perry’s “A Fall From Grace” at Metrograph on January 13, 2020 in New York City. (Photo by Dimitrios Kambouris/WireImage); Will Smith attends ‘Bad Boys For Life’ photocall at the Villamagna Hotel on January 08, 2020 in Madrid, Spain. (Photo by Carlos Alvarez/Getty Images)

“I think he is very much in reflection of trying to figure out what happened,” continued Perry. “Because what I’ll tell you is I just read his book, and there’s this moment about not being able to protect his mother [as a child]. I know that feeling — I’m getting chills just thinking about it. I know that feeling of being a man and thinking about the little boy. And if that trauma is not dealt with right away, as you get older it will show up in the most inappropriate, most horrible time. I know Will. I know him well.”

In the weeks sincethe Oscars, Rock, 57, has madebrief jokes at standup performancesreferencing the moment, but he hasn’t yet spoken about it in length. He has said he’ll “talk about it at some point” eventually.

Jada, 50,addressed the incident on a recent episodeof herRed Table Talkshow, saying, “About Oscar night: My deepest hope is that these two intelligent, capable men have an opportunity to heal, talk this out and reconcile. With the state of the world today, we need ‘em both, and we all actually need one another more than ever. Until then, Will and I are continuing to do what we have done for the last 28 years — and that’s [to] keep figuring out this thing called life together. Thank you for listening.”

source: people.com