Scarlett Johanssonis revealing her real-life marriage story — and why it works!
TheBlack Widowstar, 38, joinedGwyneth Paltrowon Tuesday’s episode of the latter’sGooppodcastto talk skincare and what she’s learned from being with someone like her husbandColin Jost.
“I didn’t know what I wanted or needed from somebody else,” Johansson admitted to Paltrow, 50, in the Polestar-sponsored interview. “I never realized, ‘Oh, it’s really important for me, I need to be with a compassionate person. That’s a fundamental characteristic that has to be there.’ "
“And I think that understanding what those fundamental things are that you need in a partner is a must, I think — for longevity, anyway,” she said.
“I think identifying those things was a game-changer for me,” added Johansson, whomarried Jost, 40, in October 2020.
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Colin Jost and Scarlett Johansson.Chelsea Guglielmino/Getty Images
The Outset skincare founder shares daughter 8-year-old daughterRosewith exRomain Dauriacand sonCosmo, 20 months, with Jost, who is a writer and actor onSaturday Night Live.
Married twice before (her first wasRyan Reynolds), she said with Jost, she “was finally able to step back and actually respect myself enough to know what those [fundamental] things were and be okay with it, you know? That was a life lesson.”
Scarlett Johansson and Colin Jost.Image Press Agency/NurPhoto/Shutterstock
“I’m so happy for you,” shared Paltrow, who found love again in her second marriage withBrad Falchukafter she andChris Martindivorced.
Paltrow and Martin, 46, share two children — daughterApple, 18, and sonMoses, 17 — while Falchuk, 52, is dad toa teenage son and daughter, as well.
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Earlier in the interview, theIron Man2costars struggled to remember when they officially first met, and compared stories on their much earlier days coming up in the sometimes “relentless” business.
“But of course it’s always that fear, I think, as an actor, where you think, ‘Oh, I’m not gonna work after this,’ " Johansson shared.
“Doesn’t everybody feel that every time anyway?” Paltrow related. “It’s just like, you never know what’s coming!”
Complimenting Johansson’s overall career and sharing how she read that Johansson is one of thehighest-paid actresses in Hollywood, Paltrow said, “That’s f—ing cool! That’s baller. I love that!”
Colin Jost and Scarlett Johansson.Amy Sussman/Getty Images
Staying humble after the compliment, theMarriage Storyactress went on to discuss why she doesn’t do Instagram: “I just feel that it’s fundamentally not me.”
“I have to protect myself,” she added. “I’m too sensitive.”
“It’s another reason why I worship you,” Paltrow said.
Johannsson expanded on her social-media stance — and fragility — during a guest spot onThe Skinny Confidential Him & Herpodcast earlier this month.
“I honestly am too fragile of a person to have social media,” Johansson said. “My ego is too fragile. I can’t deal with it. My brain is too fragile, I’m like a delicate flower. I have enough anxiety.”
Scarlett Johansson.Matt Winkelmeyer/Getty
She admitted that she experimented with the idea of joining Instagram and was even on the app “once for three days,” but deleted itafter she got too immersedwhile looking at someone’s posts.
“When I started realizing that I’d spent 20 minutes looking at somebody’s Instagram page who worked for a friend of mine — I now know you have a pit bull, two daughters, and live in Burbank — I was like, I just wasted 17 minutes of time,” she said. “I now feel like I should move to California, get this specific dog and change my life in all these ways.”
“I felt so bad, like I was missing out on this random person’s life,” she added. “I can’t do this. I’m too fragile; I have so much anxiety about other things.”
source: people.com
