After giving birth totwo sets of identical twinsseven months ago — a rarity that an expert in obstetrics previously described as “like 1 in 10 million” — Massachusetts momAshley Nesshad settled into a new family routine that included caring for her newborn quadruplets.
As her partner Val Bettencourt shuttled the couple’s three other children to school, Ashley packed up three of her four babies for trips to the Neonatal Intensive Care Unit at Mass General for Children hospital in Boston, where they would visit the fourth, a little girl named Chesley.
“Miss Chesley” — as Ashley, 36, called her smallest daughter — had struggled more than her newborn siblings since they arrived about 12 weeks early on July 28.
“Just everything is happening to her,” Ashley told PEOPLE on Jan. 25. “And she takes it like a champ. She opens her little eyes and just stares at you, like, ‘Hi.’ She doesn’t look miserable. Just like, ‘Okay, mom, I’m going to be fine.’ "
“It breaks my heart,” Ashley said a little more than a month ago.
Ashley Ness
On Wednesday, Chesley died.
“My beautiful daughter, Chesley May, was called home to Heaven after a courageous six months of life,” Ashley says in a statement shared Monday with PEOPLE. “Her passing leaves a huge emptiness in the hearts of all of us; her parents, her siblings, her family and the NICU team at Mass General hospital.”
The girl who underwent several surgeries and never left the hospital after she was born “weighing only 1 pound 7 ounces,” according to Ashley’s statement, “was tiny, but so mighty!”
“Day in and day out she fought and fought and continued to beat the odds,” Ashley continues. “Her strength was unwavering. Each time she overcame an obstacle we were so excited thinking that finally all the quads would be home together soon. We were positive that she would live a long and healthy life.”
The statement adds: “We will forever miss her laughing face, her funny little air leak sounds, and the sparkle in her big beautiful eyes. We are so proud of her and know that she is at peace.”
The twin-quad phenomenon occurs when two eggs are fertilized at the same time and then each fertilized egg divides again, according to Dr. Ahmet Baschat, director of the Center for Fetal Therapy and a professor in the Johns Hopkins Medicine Department of Gynecology and Obstetrics.
Because each split egg remained encased in its own placenta — unlike traditional quadruplets, where each of the four would represent an individually fertilized egg and be encased separately — two sets of identical twins were the result, explained Dr. Baschat, who was not involved in Ashley’s care.
Much had unfolded in the lives of Ashley, who put her work as a hair stylist on hold during her pregnancy, and Val, 48, a small-engine mechanic, since PEOPLE broke the news of thequadruplets' July 28 delivery.
The couple were already sharing their three-bedroom home in Taunton, Mass., with Ashley’s daughter Chanel, 9, and Val’s two youngest sons, 11-year-old Isaiah and Zayden, 8.
For now, Chesley’s twin sister Chatham, who was released from the hospital on Oct. 4, and brothers Chance and Cheston, who went home on Oct. 17 and 18, respectively, each have their own bassinet in their parents' bedroom.
AGoFundMe campaignwas launched to help the parents raise money for a possible home addition for their expanded family.
The couple had since traded a seven-passenger minivan for a newer — but still used — eight-person vehicle. But even that wouldn’t have provided enough room to safely hold everyone for the day they hoped Chesley would come home.
Doctors performed surgery on Dec. 28 to insert a tracheostomy tube that helped Chesley breathe, and it would have been a fixture of her life for the near future, Ashley was told.
Diagnosed with severe chronic lung disease, Chesley was scheduled for surgery last November that was postponed when the anesthesiologist deemed it unsafe safe to put the infant under, Ashley said. Chesley also had pulmonary hypertension.
Because of the little girl’s struggles, Ashley had held Chesley in her arms only five times since she was born.
But Chesley still got pampered with certain privileges, including a hospital room all to herself, where Ashley laid out a blanket atop a floor mat so her three siblings could play while mom fussed over the fourth.
Meanwhile, the newborns had begun to display their own personalities.
“The boys are the biggest flirts ever,” Ashley said last month of identical twins Chance and Cheston. “Every time they see anybody, and especially females, their eyes open so wide, and they start smiling and talking to them. I’m like, ‘Oh boys, stop, please.’ "
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And Chatham is “a tough nut to crack, that one,” Ashley said. “She has the most serious face on all the time. The boys will give smiles out left and right, and you’re lucky if you get one smile from her.”
Now, the entire family is grieving together.
“Chesley loved spending time with her siblings,” Ashley says in her statement. “She loved taking turns cuddling with her big sisters and brothers. She loved when her identical twin, Chatham, laid with her babbling. I would look at them laying together thinking of all the tricks they are going to play on everyone when they get a little bit older because they look identical.”
“She also enjoyed her time with Chance and Cheston,” Ashley adds. “She always seemed so content when they were with her. It was like she knew her big brothers were there to comfort her.”
Though she was only six months old and had health challenges, Chelsey was a charmer who seemed to love music and giggling, according to her mother.
In her statement, Ashley expresses her whole family’s gratitude for the care they and Chelsey received during the past six-plus months. “I could never thank the team enough for their dedication, love and support they provided to my daughter, myself and my family,” she writes. “Chesley was one extremely lucky girl to have the best nurse aunties and uncles.”
With a smile that “lit up the room,” Chelsey “left a mark on everyone that was lucky enough to meet her,” Ashley says of her daughter.
That includes her mom Ashley.
“Chesley has shown me more about life, love and serenity than I ever knew,” she writes. “We love you sweet Chesley May and will forever share your courageous legacy!”
source: people.com
